We all aspire to have healthy relationships. But these can be more elusive than we often think. We typically assume if we are getting along with someone, that the relationship must be healthy. But that may not always be the case. 

In fact, sometimes the smoother a relationship is, the more unhealthy it can be, namely because one person has dictated it on his or her own terms, and the other has capitulated to always give them his/her way—most often to “keep the peace.” The test of the quality of a relationship is disagreement. Timothy Keller has said that relationship implies the power to contradict. It is there in the friction of disagreement were listening, discernment, respect, and intimacy grow.


How might we even evaluate how healthy our relationships are? Truth be told, most of us lack a set of criteria. One thing is for sure; the more healthy and mature an individual is emotional, the more intuitively she or he is able to discern and evaluate a relationship.

The following are some criteria that can be helpful in discerning how another person relates to us, and how we need to change to relate to them better. But be wary, these criteria listed below are not tools by which to “judge” other people. They will certainly help you see things in others you never noticed before. Nevertheless, they let you also see into yourself. That is the part that is more useful. Focusing on the other person’s relational dysfunction does little more than to cause fights. You know what I am talking about—”why do you always do ___________?” The goal is to discern how you relate to those in your life and thoughtfully improve. 

  1. The Ability to Listen and Learn Without Judgment

A healthy relationship has the ability to listen—to listen without judgment. This is not as easy as it sounds. It is hard to not react and cut someone off midsentence when they say what we do not wish to hear. 

Listening builds rapport; it tells the other person that who they are is valuable. For Christians, listening is the primary lost discipline of evangelism. We need not agree with the person sitting across from us. What is more important is that we are able to listen, think, and understand the person before us. This creates, connection, intimacy, and above all opportunity.

  1. The Ability to Disagree Graciously

The ability to hear without judgment does not imply we do not have an opinion. No, in fact, we should. There is nothing healthy or courageous about compromising your principles or adapting to what you find morally objectionably “just to keep the peace.” 

Nevertheless, we do not need to disagree in anger or violence. When I say violence, I include simply verbal violence like yelling, name-calling, sarcasm, slander, and gossip. To disagree graciously is to keep that person’s humanity and dignity before our eyes as we kindly take issue. This exemplifies the best of Christian virtue. We do not just love our neighbor, but also our enemy.

  1. Ability to Have Relationship That is Not On One Person’s Terms

Relationship implies expectations. There are natural and appropriate expectations that any healthy relationship must abide by to flourish. Boundaries are essential along with a sense of rights, and a dedication to honor one another. 

But there are also unhealthy and inappropriate expectations. Today, young women constantly face the unspoken but culturally forceful expectation that they should have sex with a man before marriage. These unmet expectations can cause conflict and the end of the relationship. This serves as an example of an inappropriate expectation. Young women who stand their ground are better served because the process forces a test of motives, especially revealing if he is interested in the short term or longterm. In fact, taking that stand with the right guy often garners new respect for the young woman making him far more interested in the longterm. 

Inappropriate expectations can lead to a one-sided relationship where one person, in a sense, controls the relationship. Here is the key point: it is an unhealthy situation when you cannot maintain a peaceful relationship unless you meet the demands of the other. This is not the healthy expectations of normal relationship we just listed above but unnecessarily demands that one party makes necessary for continued fellowship. 

This can take on a plethora of forms. Parents can place heavy demands on children (especially adult children) for them to make decisions the way they think one should. One spouse may pressure the other to see issues or do things his or her way.

Evangelistic Witness & Expectations

This has a great deal of importance regarding the Church’s evangelistic witness. It is often assumed that when we evangelize that we must lead with our beliefs. It is not uncommon, especially for those of the Fundamentalist spectrum, to quickly end relationships with non-Christians who do not see the world the way they do.


We must not compromise our moral and theological standards. Nevertheless, wherever the Church has greatly succeeded in converting a culture, they began with an unconditional relationship of service. The early Church never compromised their message of Jesus as Lord and Savior—especially in a world that called Cesar “lord and savior.” In fact, they zealously died for it. But they did not stop the conversation when a person did not immediately convert. On the contrary, they built a robust relationship and a process of relational dialogue that came to be known as catechesis. This was an ongoing conversation in a relationship where seekers could gradually explore the claims of Christ.

  1. The Ability to Stay in Relationship

A healthy relationship requires a healthy sense of self. Emotions are like bumps in the road that threatens to push us off the road in our relationships. This is why healthy relationships do not succeed through emotions; they succeed through the prefrontal cortex. 

The human brain is unique in that it is the only one made of three parts. It has an amygdala, where the fear and the fight or flight instincts live; this can also be called the lizard brain because that’s all lizards essentially have. Next is the cortex, unique to mammals and primates. This is a thinking and relational portion. Lastly, is the Prefrontal cortex, found only in humans. This is the most intellectual part of the brain. 

Here is why this matters, when emotions or anxiety is high, the amygdala can completely override the rest of the brain. To survive a head-on collision, this process is critical. But unfortunately, this same process can take over in our relationships. When it does, we stop thinking clearly and relationships turn to conflict. The “fight or flight” instinct is not for our relationships.

It takes a thoughtful and cool head to intentionally live in the prefrontal cortex. It is here we sustain relationships by overriding our fight or flight responses, and pursue reconciliation when things get uptight.

In fact, all four of these points for healthy relationships require the very non-emotional process of calming the self during the relational conflict, moving toward that person, and working for reconciliation.

Endeavoring to be an Emotionally Healthy Self

It is your responsibility alone to be an emotionally and relationally healthy self. You cannot make others do the same. You cannot make people stay in the relationship, reconcile, or do the right thing. All you can do is practice unity through the Gospel. This means maintaining an open posture that invites reconciliation. 

The Gospel is the message of God for mankind. It is a call to repent. That means it requires a life of decisions that take place in the uniquely human part of the brain—the prefrontal cortex. Animals cannot do this. The call of the Gospel to repent, believe, love neighbor, and even love our enemies is something we do against the survival instincts of the lower parts of the brain. This is our calling to live fully as human citizens of the world—of whom Jesus says, Blessed are the peacemakers. 

The Gospel calls us to a contra-instinctual lifestyle of repentance and reconciliation as our normative order of life. But beware—this flies in the face of every impulse and passion in us. To live in the manner if Jesus, it the highest and most difficult undertaking to which any man can aspire.

What Now?

Is someone angry or cutting off? That is when you reach out to them, invite them to the table for conversation, and seek fellowship. They may decline. If they do, that is on them—not you. Your job is to not pass judgment but to remind them you would like to work things out and are committed to seeing reconciliation through. As the Apostle tells us, and without naive idealism: “If possible, so far as it depends upon you, live peaceably with all.” (Rom. 12:18 )

Bishop Todd




What is Ash Wednesday? 

The simple answer is that it marks a time of fasting and prayer for Christians. It is the beginning of the forty days of the Lenten season in preparation for Easter. The challenge with this holiday we are celebrating today is like all other Christian holidays, they evolved over time.

Lent, short for Lenten, is drawn from the Old English / Teutonic word for “Spring” (lencten). It became associated with this period of forty days of fasting since they took place in the Springtime.

When did it start?  
It is rather difficult to determine precisely when Ash Wednesday and Lent really began. At first, in some parts of the Roman world, it began as a severe fast for 24 to 40 hours before Easter and before Baptism. Easter became the most regular fixed time (but not the only time) for baptism. Fasting for a day or two before baptism is a very ancient custom that goes back as far as the Apostolic times (the First Century A.D.) when the Temple still stood in Jerusalem. The traditions we have today seem to have formed from a coalescing of various early local traditions before the 4th century. Eventually, these traditions seemed to have further evolved into a full forty days of asceticism drawn from Jesus’ forty days of fasting the wilderness before being tempted by the devil (Matthew 4:1–11).

The first formal mention of Lent is found in the fifth canon of the Council of Nicea in 325 A.D. from which the church gets the first draft of the Nicene Creed. The ancient name for it was not “lent” of course, but in fact quadragesima (Latin) or in Greek, tessarakoste, meaning “fortieth.”

We should not assume this forty-day fast began at Nicea. In fact, the cannon speaks of it so briefly, it clearly seems to assume common knowledge of the practice. It is brought up in reference to another issue, namely a question of when to have biannual synods for bishops to discuss matters regarding readmission of the excommunicated.

“And let these synods be held, the one before Lent, (that the pure Gift may be offered to God after all bitterness has been put away), and let the second be held about autumn.”

The forty days of fasting we now know as Great Lent became a ministry period for penance and ultimately readmitting and recommunicating the excommunicated with the Church. It appears over the first several centuries the fasting associated with baptisms and Easter grew into the forty-day Lenten period.

Where do the ashes come from?

The early Church, drawing on the Old Testament, often observed times of fasting and prayer. During these times of fasting included a practice where characters would put off they’re fine clothing, don sackcloth instead, and they sit down in ashes and sprinkle them over their own head. This was a regular ritual-sign for repentance in the Old Testament.

“O daughter of my people, gird on sackcloth, and roll in ashes; make mourning as for an only son, most bitter lamentation; for suddenly the destroyer will come upon us.”  (Jeremiah 6:26)

Sackcloth and ashes were associated either with times of great grief, like the loss of a loved one (above) or especially during times of repentance. As the fasting traditions before Easter continued to develop and grow, the sackcloth and more theatrical aspects diminished until about the 10th century when ashes began to be imposed just upon the forehead of the worshippers. It is these ashes that give it the more modern name “Ash Wednesday”.

An Enduring Tradition

Perhaps the most important and interesting aspect of Lent is that it has retained its fundamental meaning for over 1600+ years—repentance. This displays the power of tradition when used rightly within the Church to support the ministry of the Gospel!

Repentance is the process by which the Christian self-examines, reflects on sin, and turns his or her wanton gaze toward God for grace. Repentance is not only the way we become a Christian—but the way we live as Christians.

Repentance stands at the heart of eucharistic and all Judeao-Christian spirituality. Jesus’ preaching fundamentally was, “Repent—for the Kingdom of heaven is at hand!” (Matthew 4:17) In the Old Testament, when the worshipper brought a sin offering, he was to “confess his sin” to the priest (Leviticus 5:5–6). This tradition of confession of sin and repentance continued on in the Church without a Temple. Paul commands for the Christian worshipper to “examine himself” in partaking of the Lord’s table.
(1 Corinthians 11:28)

The Spirit and the Letter

There is nothing in Scripture itself that commands Ash Wednesday and Lenten observation. As Christians worshipping in the Anglican tradition, we do not have a legalistic view of tradition. All tradition is there to serve the Church. And so according to the preface to the 1662 Common Prayer Book, we are free to express our faith in forms that are not in any way “contrary to the Word of God, or Sound doctrine, or which a Godly man not with a good conscience use and submit unto….”

We have the Liberty in Christ to worship in robust ways, to even thoughtfully develop forms and follow them. In fact, no Church can worship without forms. If you throw them out, you would just have to create new ones. When the Reformation landed on the shores of England, the English Reformers, especially her foremost reformer—Thomas Cranmer, did not reinvent the wheel but looked to the ancient pattern of the early Church to draw on.

So in spite of the Lenten traditions being drawn from a variety of early Christian traditions and evolving over the history of the Church, what has remained the same is the Spirit in all of them, namely the focus on repentance in Christ Jesus. This is nothing less than the call of the Gospel of the Kingdom that Jesus and the Apostles preached. And that is what is most important, the Spirit of the Law. Paul himself reminds the Christians at Rome in regard to observing Holy Days:

“One man esteems one day as better than another, while another man esteems all days alike. Let everyone be fully convinced in his own mind.” (Romans 14:5 RSV)

Seeing Jesus

So what does Ash Wednesday and Lent call us to? If understood right, it is a path of spiritual observance that leads us to see Jesus!  There at the end of it is the crucified and resurrected God-man—the one in whom we have everlasting salvation.

In this season…

Do you have sin? — Jesus will take it.

Do you have burdens? — Jesus will lift them.

Do you have guilt? — Jesus cleanses that

Do you have shame? — Jesus erases it.

When we approach him with hearts of sackcloth and ashes, Jesus gives us the beaming white robes of his righteousness. That is the promise of the Gospel to you during Lent, and all year long.

Bishop Todd J. Murphy




The 8 Key Character Traits of True Friendship in the Life of Jesus

In this two-part series, we are looking at eight key character traits of Jesus that formed the foundation of a healthy relationship.

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  1. Advocacy (for the Other)

It is not coincidental that the name Satan, the arch-enemy of God and mankind actually means “accuser.” There is nobody who enjoys being accused. Accusation, true or not, always alienates; accusation pushes us out of the group, the community, society. Convicted criminals know the feeling of being an outcast like no one else.

Jesus’ ministry is not as accuser but as healer. This is his priestly role. The priest is a healer, reconciler, and redeemer between God and man. For healing relationships, we need to have an advocating posture toward one another. When someone knows you are truly his or her advocate, it breeds transparency. Through a non-judgemental and advocating posture, we can lead one another out of the cocoons of fear and darkness we have built around ourselves. This is the redeeming power of Gospel formed friendship.

  1. Sacrificial

Jesus was not just a priestly advocate, he as also the sacrifice that pays the price for us. Sacrifice puts the tip on the spear of advocacy. Many will advocate for someone up to a point. But only Christ advocates by the sacrifice of himself. 

The Christian is called to the imitation for Christ in his or her relationships. Sacrifice is about “upping the cost” of a relationship. Are we willing to go above and beyond what everyone else thinks we should? Jesus did. The cost for Jesus’ relationship with us was the cross.

  1. Long-suffering

In Galatians 5:22 the Apostle Paul says: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith…” Another way to say it is “patience.” But how we use patience today usually does not cover it. To say that someone is a patient person today does not cover the magnanimous idea behind “longsuffering” in Jesus and the Bible. 

In Jesus, we encounter enduring graciousness—patience that perseveres in the relationships, long past when others give up. Long-suffering looks at the other person holistically in their personhood. It sees them as an individual, and one in need of care even when they are themselves quite uncaring. In order to do it, it requires our last character trait we see in Jesus.

  1. Without Judgment

There is nothing we fear more than judgment. Judgment accuses, passes sentence, and publicly humiliates. Jesus stood before his hearers in non-judgemental advocacy. To be a true friend is to give up on judgment in our relationships. This does not mean we are never guilty, nor that we should not tell each other the truth. But it calls us to a relationship in a way where we constantly bear in mind that we are as susceptible to the very same sins as our brother.

Judgment defines people by their failure; the Gospel defines by the future Jesus promises. In the Gospel, we are freed to approach our spouses, children, and friends without judgment. We can be free from having to think evil of others so that we might see them for the miracles they are in the eyes of God.

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The 8 Key Character Traits of True Friendship in the Life of Jesus

The term “authentic” has become one of those trendy buzzwords among the up and coming generations. Unfortunately, its redundant use and elusive definition spell little more than a platitude to most. Yet there is something so right about “authenticity.” 

Should we then despair to attain to true authenticity in our relationships? Not at all. 

We need to think about relationships more holistically, both more elaborately and simply at the same time. If authenticity describes a state of being, then it must describe how someone, some people, or some relationship “is”. 

Jesus exuded eight characteristics of authentic friendship. These surely are not exhaustive, but I think a good start for sure.

  1. Presence 

Above all, Jesus displayed a remarkable presence. Believe it or not, the entire Christian faith is predicated on it. Jesus’ incarnation, God becoming man, walking among mankind, and living with them lay at the epicenter of Christian thought. Jesus enters our world; he condescends (literally descending from heaven), yet he is not condescending. 

Jesus comes to live, walk, to dine, and even die like us. God thrusts himself deep into the muck and the fray of our daily lives. He was as soiled with the realities of humanity as we are, yet without sin. He did this literally and physically in his incarnation. He does it every day with us by the Spirit

One of the great monastic spiritual classics is Practicing the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. What is true for God is true for all our relationships; we must practice presence in our relationships. 

Today it is all too easy to be in the room and yet someplace else. As much as technology distracts us, it is not the root cause. There is one thing the upsets true presence in our relationships—that is the preoccupation with self. A “self-absorbed” or “self-focused” posture—the inherent predilection to put ourselves and our own self-interest first, forms the stress-fractures in all relationships.


  1. Trust

Trust is a very fragile bubble floating invisibly between persons; it is too easily bobbled and shattered on the ground. No relationship is possible apart from it, and every relationship has been wrecked by disregarding it.

The opposite of trust is not distrust per se, but fear. Fear in our relationships makes us skeptical, wary, and distrustful towards each other. It leaves us bobbing around in circuitous dances as we dodge, duck, and evade each other all the while veneered in the smiles of social graces.

Jesus did not do this. He did join the Devil’s dance. He was present, trusting, transparent, and truth-telling. Not mincing words, Jesus spoke the reality of his relationships without fear

The key to understanding trust is that it really is NOT earned, but in fact, freely given. The worldly idea that trust is earned really keeps the other at arm’s length, in a state of semi-alienation until they have “proven” themselves. Yet how long until we mess up? It is inevitable. This is conditional trust and therefore this is conditional love too. Jesus “risked” relationship. To risk relationship, is to risk trust, and to risk trust is to risk intimacy. 

  1. Transparency

Transparency is birthed by trust, especially trust that is given, not earned. To be transparent is the willingness to risk the cost and blessings of intimacy. 

The soil where transparency grows is the redeemed heart, where fear no longer reigns. Fear clouds relationship; fear increase opacity. The impenetrability to see each other in our relationships rise in proportion to the fear between us. As fear rises, it is like the smoke of a house fire—it begins white, grows grey, until becoming black until the ability to “see” each other it blotted out fully. 

Fear creates darkness! Death and hell, not so ironically, are always represented by darkness and blackness by Jesus. It is also why God, the Gospel, and the Kingdom of God are associated with light (which is transparent)!


  1. Honesty / Truth-telling

When Adam first ate of the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good & Evil, what did he immediately do? He ran and hid from God. The light was gone—darkness had settled. Darkness became man’s new abode, his new nature. In sinning, we ran for the cover of darkness among the trees. 

There was no more truth-telling in him. There was just darkness, opacity, lying, and therefore no presence. And so what did he do?  He ran from the presence of God.

John 3:19 And this is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light because their deeds were evil. 

What does God do? God goes in search of his friend. He calls out saying, “Adam, where are you?”  God goes in search of presence and intimacy, but he finds the fear-full man hiding in darkness. It is at this point that the man’s friend begins truth-telling. “How did you know you were naked?” “What have you done?” Truth-telling is painful.

Continue on to Part 2 https://apostlesri.org/authentic-friendship-part-2/




The Impossibility of Living Humanly
Without Tradition

“Tradition” is one of those great words that was revered for millennia but now holds a place of suspicion in the minds of many. Ironically enough, what has often gotten the Church into trouble is tradition, and at the same time, it has also paradoxically kept her on the rails of fidelity.

Tradition: Help or Hurt?

How can tradition both help us and hurt us? That is a good question and a simple put answer is not helpful. For now, let me at least offer this; it is not tradition that sins, but men and women do. It is not tradition, religion, or even the Holy Scriptures that can aspire to virtue and live justly; only people do. Whether tradition helps or hurts, resides within the hearts and wills of men. It is not any tradition itself, but what we do with it. And that is why it is necessary that our relationship to the Bible, the Church, and her tradition be oriented properly. This leads to the first of three fundamental points: First, tradition is only as good as the humans who use it.

Second, not all tradition is created equal; some are better and more useful than others. The question then is how does one discern that? This comes back to the question of one’s orientation to the Scriptures and the Historic Church.

Thirdly, Every Christian group has tradition and therefore must not only accept that fact but thoughtfully evaluate their traditions in light of some standard. This is inescapable. Everyone has tradition in their lives, patterns, habits, rituals, and ways of doing things from groups, to families, to individuals.

Fourth, A well-stated tradition means we are honest about our understanding and interpretation of the Holy Scriptures. This is precisely the intention behind the formation of the historic Anglican 39 Articles of 1571.

The Bible is the word of God, the ultimate authority in matters of doctrine. However, nobody has unmediated access to meaning. All communication, all words must be interpreted. The oversimplified statement “I just believe the Bible” is as unthoughtful as it is naive. It was written over thousands of years by various authors and compiled by editors whose world view and outlook were radically different. Those trained in the translation of ancient manuscripts know very well what a precarious task this is. Interpretation is not always as straightforward as it seems. But we need not despair either. Nevertheless, to have a summary statement of faith like the 39 Articles is a step in honesty and an exercise in integrity.

Getting Honest about Scripture and Tradition

Many Christian groups pride themselves on not having any “tradition” consequently convincing themselves that they “only do what the Bible says.” This reminds me of a conversation with a young man once who contended that his Pentecostal ‘tradition’ did not follow tradition. To this, I responded by asking about the rather standard “tambourine lady” typically in the front rows of “traditional” Pentecostal Churches. His mouth hung open a bit… I followed this by asking about why I could go to one Pentecostal Church and then another, and both tambourine ladies, who had never met, still use voice intonation and behavior patterns when they “prophecy?” His mouth hung open a bit more. “That is tradition!” I answered, and it is not necessarily a bad thing. It creates structure, unity, and order. The structure it provides can be the key to engendering freedom of expression in the Christian life.

The Anglican Tradition

The 39 Articles do more than outline the Anglican tradition. Like other creeds, confessions, and statements of faith, the Articles position one for accountability and evaluation, especially self-evaluation, as well as dialogue. A statement of faith is a statement of where you are, your location in your understanding of Scripture. It stands to reason, that if you don’t know where you are, you cannot get directions to where you are going!

Within the 39 Articles also reside a structure of authority by which the tradition relates itself to God, the Holy Scripture, the historic Church, and even the Church of today. This structure arose from two commitments. (1) the Holy Scripture as the supreme authority in doctrinal matters. This is fundamental to the whole Protestant Reformation, of which the Church in England took part. (2) a commitment to the historic traditions of the Church. Anglicanism never wanted to throw out the baby with the bathwater. That is why she has been called the “middle way” meaning simultaneously evangelical and catholic.

This orientation or posture is incredibly important because it has everything to do with how we live in the world with Christ, with all Christians, and with a lost world who needs the message of the Gospel.

Principles For the Christian Life

This leads us to a unique proposition: The Anglican tradition can be one of the most helpful paths you can embrace for the life and health of your Church, even if you are not an Anglican. That’s right, even if you are not an Anglican, you can adopt a great deal of it in ways that will reorient you in refreshingly healthy ways toward the Bible (Holy Scripture) and the historic Church. However I do not expect you to necessarily take it on my word, but welcome you to walk this path with me and let me show you.

Bishop Todd J. Murphy





This article will be difficult to read, not from the ability to understand it, but from the perspective of being heart-wrenching as we try to wrap our heads around the issue of suicide in the realm of “medical choices”. As was projected during the fight to protect the unborn child from death in the womb, the next frontier to which the sanctity of life will be threatened is doctor-assisted suicide.

It is hard to believe but doctor-prescribed suicide is already legal in 9 states, and it is coming to the legislature of RI in January.  Yes, a bill to legalize physician-assisted suicide is planned to be introduced in RI this month.  While it may seem that we aren’t well informed enough about it to make an informed opinion, the proponents of this are well prepared; they’ve already succeeded 9 times despite opposition from many.

There are many respected professional organizations that oppose this “choice”.  To name just a few are medical associations such as American Medical Association (AMA) and National Hospice & Palliative Care; many disability organizations such as American Association of People with Disabilities and Not Dead Yet; Advocacy Organizations such as Family Research Council, Patients’ Rights Council; religious organizations such as Focus on the Family, Knights of Columbus, and US Conference of Catholic Bishops.

Groups whose mission is to promote Doctor–Prescribed Suicide have names like Compassion and Choices, Death with Dignity and Final Exit Network.  These groups seek to make this type of suicide legal in every state, normalize the use of lethal drugs as part of medical practice, and eventually expand its use beyond terminal illness.

Suicide rates in the general public have been shown to increase in states that legalize doctor-prescribed Suicide.  In Oregon, where it has been legal since 1997, suicides in the general public are now more than 40% higher than the national average.  The promotion of suicide for the terminally ill could have the unintended consequence of increasing suicides in other groups, which are already alarming in the vulnerable teen and veteran populations, as well as people with psychiatric disabilities who may struggle with suicidal thoughts.

In 2019 a Bill was proposed in Oregon that would be to expand the practice by expanding the definition of terminal illness to make more patients eligible for lethal drugs.  Also being proposed in the bill would be to reduce the waiting period in order to receive the prescription on the same day.  In 2019 a bill was proposed in New Mexico that allowed non-physicians to diagnose and prescribe deadly drugs. There are many good secular reasons identified to oppose Doctor-Prescribed Suicide such as, no requirement to screen for depression; no disclosure required to family members; some terminally ill patients live much longer than expected.  There can also be coercion from family members to hasten a loved one’s death at times for economic reasons.  Not everyone comes from a loving family.

Doctors are usually viewed by the public as trusted healers.  We are all familiar with the Hippocratic Oath: First, do no harm.  Many physicians are against this “choice”.  From the health insurance side, there are already instances of insurance denials for medical treatment, yet approval for lethal drugs, despite there being no request for these drugs.

HOWEVER, there is another perspective to all this craziness.  To us who believe in the Almighty, who identify as members of the body of Jesus Christ, we look at the world from a different perspective, a Godly perspective.  We answer to a different leader other than SELF, and MY choice.  We are in direct relation to God from the moment of creation; In Genesis, we read, “God created man in his own image; male and female he created them.” If God created us in His image, how are we to destroy something so precious, even if it is no longer precious in the eyes of the world.   Through Moses, God gave us the commandment: “Love God with all your heart and soul and mind and to love your neighbor as yourself.” God calls us to Him and to love all others, including ourselves, while we still have breath.  God keeps his promises and does not abandon us during times of trial, as he tells us, “I am with you always, to the end of the age.”  He ends all doubt about ending a life when he commands, “Thou shalt not murder.”

John Stott, a theologian, aptly wrote, “The good gifts of the Creator are spoiled by human selfishness.  The rights God gave to all human beings equally, easily degenerate into “my rights” on which I insist, irrespective of the rights of others or of the common good.  So the history of the world has been the story of the conflict between my rights and yours; between the good of each and the good of all, between the individual and the community.”

“May we honor one another and seek the common good as we promote the right to life, the dignity and the freedom of every person, from conception to natural death” CPB p. 219).  These are our unalienable rights as humans, and where do our freedoms come from?  Yes, they come from God, the God of our salvation.

Deacon Deb Adams




Love is the Fulfilling of the Law—The Role of the Last Five 

Love is the Fulfilling of the Law—The Role of the Last Five 

Commandments in the Christian Life

In our lectionary readings for last week, the first week of Advent, one of the texts we read was Romans 13:8–14.  This is a special text for a couple of reasons: First as in all of Paul’s letters, they are broken into two major parts, (1) a Gospel section expounding the wonderful truths about our redemption in Christ, and (2) a moral section outlining and admonishing how Christians are to now live in light of this salvation. 

Early Christian Catechesis

This text is part of this important second section which begins in chapter 12:1 with the famous words, “I appeal to you, therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.

Secondly, these verses, in particular, especially 13:8–10 give us a glimpse of the earliest Christian catechesis. What is “catechesis?” The term comes from Greek and means to train or instruct. Before Christians were baptized, they were first instructed in the commandments of God. This was true of both Judaism at the time of Christ and Christianity. In fact, the practice of pre-baptismal catechesis was taken over by the earliest Jewish Christians from the traditional Judaism they had been reared in. 

The “Ten Words”

At the heart of this training lay the Decalogue (meaning “Ten Words”)—the Ten Commandments. What is interesting about this is that Jews and Christians of this time usually only focused on the last five commandments. This is precisely what Paul does here. This was customary for some reason, and we.see it elsewhere in the New Testament. Jesus’s teaching in Matthew chapter 5 of the Sermon on the Mount is set up the same way, so is the book of James 2:11. The earliest existing Christian catechism from the first century known as the Didache (or Teaching of the Lord to the Gentiles through the Twelve Apostles) is structured the same way. Take in a quick read:

Rom. 13:8  Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. 9 For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 10 Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.

Early Christian Meetings

In the latter part of the first century A.D. a Roman Bureaucrat named Pliny the Younger writes a letter to Emperor Trajan. In it, he tells of his attempt to find out what these Christians are doing in their secret meetings where they supposedly eat some man’s “flesh and blood.” After torturing two young Christian women (presumably to death!) he concluded that these Christian meetings are of an innocuous nature. Notably, they included a recommitment of an oath to follow what sounds like these final parts of the Ten Commandments. Essentially, the catechumen committed to being a “covenant law-keeper” swearing a “sacramentum”

The “Cliff-Notes” to the Law

The Ten Commandments are in fact a summary of the Law of God. They were used in ancient Israel and Judaism as a sort of “Cliff-notes to the law. Easily memorized, they served as a quick reference on how to act in the many moral decisions of life. In Matthew Chapter 5, Jesus’ sermon on the mount actually gives an example of the dynamic kind of thinking God expects his people to use in approaching these commandments. God is concerned with his people reading to capture the “spirit of the law.”

Matt. 22:37 And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38 This is the great and first commandment. 39 And ha second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40 On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.”

When we come to the so-called “summary of the law”—the Two Great Commandments, what we are really dealing with is a summary of a summary!

Why The Focus on the Last Half of the Ten Commandments?

So why focus do many New Testament writers focus on the last five? Well as a pious nation, idolatry, idol-making, etc. were quite out of style. Breaking the first five commandments were socially intolerable. It was in relation to one’s neighbor where hypocrisy was most likely to reveal itself. As reform movements like Christianity and the Essenes upped the bar, the emphasis was put on how one treats his or her neighbor. John puts this best:

1John 4:20 If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen. 

For the Apostolic writers, love of neighbor became precisely HOW a person showed his true love for God. This is why Paul refers to the summary of the law, to also summarize the last five of the Ten Commandments: He writes: “the one who loves another has fulfilled the law…” and “and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 10 Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.” (Rom. 13:8 & 9–10).

The Love of Jesus Christ is the Fulfilling of the Law

As we celebrate this Advent and Holiday season and look to 2020, let us keep this in mind. Jesus came as the fulfilling of the law—the sinless for the sinful. Jesus came as a man, to save all men because of the Law’s demand. Apart from Jesus, we cannot fulfill the law. 

Jesus was embodied in human flesh, the divine donning flesh to save those in the flesh. Through his work, he has given us his Holy Spirit, by which we cry “Abba—Father!” (Rom. 8:14 & Gal. 4:6) Now that Spirit indwells our flesh so that we might incarnate the Gospel before the eyes of the world. 

As we do so, ever imperfectly, let us always bear in mind to love, because the one who loves his neighbor fulfills the law!



Mere Immortals | Your Weight in Heavenly Treasure

Mere Immortals | Your Weight in Heavenly Treasure

Of all the good and beautiful things that we regularly take for granted, foremost among them is each other. It has been said, “familiarity breeds contempt.” This could not be more true than with closest relationships.

How often do we snap sharply at those close to us, and afford social graces to strangers? How impatient are we with one another in general? This all flows from a general contempt of others.

What is contempt?

Contempt is a minimizing, a degradation or devaluation of another human being. It is to treat them with less dignity than they deserve—less dignity than who they really are.

Contempt looks judgingly down its nose at another person, and most often, in a way that makes the person judging feel better about themselves. 

The Weakness of our Strengths

Whether we realize it or not, we pass judgment, and yes, therefore pass contempt upon other people based upon our own strengths. We never judge others by what we do poorly, but by what we feel we do better. The areas where we are weak and less than excellent are precisely the character traits we downplay—the things we shrug off as unimportant. We instinctively create in our head a pecking order of character traits that, ironically enough, have all our best character traits at the top, and our weaknesses as the bottom. 

This, of course, sets us up to have contempt for others who have precisely the opposite strengths. A naturally organized or detail-oriented person can be naturally predisposed to pass judgment on those who are not similarly gifted. Oh and vice-versa.

Mere Immortals

C.S. Lewis wisely quipped that there is no person that we face or interact with, who is not a glorious and immortal being. God did not make us for contempt, but for glory. 

Genesis chapter 2 tells us that humankind was created in the image of God. We were created by, in, and for the ultimate glory of God. The glory of God is on us; the glory of God is in us, and the glory of God is our ultimate destiny. When we make light of a person, we make light of a glorious, eternal, and immortal being; more seriously, we ultimately make light of God himself. Glory is God’s destiny for us—if we in fact choose that! But any way you want to slice it, all humans were made for that end.

Immortal Dignity

We need to understand what human dignity truly is. Perhaps the growing social and political awareness of human dignity is one of the gifts of the late 20th and early 21st centuries. This, of course, stems from the conversation on “human rights.” For all her warts, the human’s “inalienable rights” is very much the child of this country, the United States of America. When we speak of human rights, we speak of human dignity, the right to be treated according to some moral standard for no other reason than the simple fact that she, he, or we are human.

Our dignity, however, is inseparable from our connection with God, from being created in his image. Humanity is much more than just this person, or that person. Humanity extends to the whole race, and all that involves its dignified treatment. So environment, justice, rights, and all things that either promote or threaten human flourishing, are the subject matter of human dignity.

The grand hiccup in all human rights discussion is the failure to see that the honor of human dignity must extend far beyond the self-aware adolescent or adult. Human dignity extends to the very potential to create more humans in the image of God. It is immoral to pump chemicals into the water supply that could cause birth defects ultimately thwarting human flourishing, it is equally immoral to pump saline solution into a womb for convenience. The violation of human dignity in the womb is the grand hypocrisy that not even the worst religion can outdo.

Heavenly Treasure

We are, and yes, you are a heavenly treasure. God made you and I for more—so much more than we normally see or hear. As we struggle through this mundane, sometimes sweaty, and often quite unglamorous life, we must ever bear in mind that we were made for more. And that is what the Gospel of Christ promises to weak human beings—a grand future and a grand eternity. Of this Gospel, which means “Good News,” the Apostle Paul says this:

2Cor. 4:7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us.

Yes, we now live in humble, “earthen vessels” as the King James version reads. But we were made for glory. This is precisely what the Gospel is putting back at the center—the love of God, and the power of God. The Gospel is then most manifest, not in the power to judge, but in the power to have grace, patience, and enduring encouragement with one another. That is how a people of heavenly treasure are to be.


Merry Christmas Charlie Brown!

Merry Christmas Charlie Brown!

“And in the same region, there were shepherds out in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And an angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were filled with great fear. And the angel said to them, ‘Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be a sign for you: you will find a baby wrapped in swaddling cloths and lying in a manger.’ And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among those with whom he is pleased!’”  (Luke 2:8-14)

For many of us, especially children, one anticipation of Christmas is the airing of Christmas specials. On December 9, 1965, CBS debuted a Peanuts Christmas special created by Charles Schulz. A Charlie Brown Christmas received high ratings and was a big success. It has been a Christmas classic ever since.

In the special, Charlie Brown is feeling depressed because he does not know the true meaning of Christmas. If you recall, Charlie Brown’s best friend Linus recites Luke 2:8-14 in their Christmas play to help him understand. I didn’t realize it in 1965, but now I see it. Linus is discipling!

I muse over this Peanuts special because it would not be produced in this day and age. To produce a comic strip or cartoon that would seriously quote Luke’s Gospel and air on secular television would be unheard of. The commercialism of Christmas, political correctness and the current moral revolution have taken “Christ” out of Christmas.

It is nice to know, in the hectic season of Christmas, that A Charlie Brown Christmas is still a mainstay; Charlie Brown, Linus and the Peanuts gang can cut through the noise of the secular culture with Luke’s true meaning of Christmas.

May we all at The Church of the Apostles be like Linus and pronounce the true meaning of Christmas to our friends.

The Lord’s Peace be with You,
Deacon Doug Stomberg



About Advent

The four weeks of Advent present Collects that point to the second coming of Jesus:

Advent #1 – Almighty God, give us grace to cast away the works of darkness, and put on the armor of light, now in the time of this mortal life in which your Son Jesus came to visit us in great humility; that in the last day, when he shall come again in his glorious majesty to judge both the living and the dead, we may rise to the life immortal; through him who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Advent #2 – Merciful God, who sent your messengers the prophets to preach repentance and prepare the way for our salvation: Give us grace to heed their warnings and forsake our sins, that we may greet with joy the coming of Jesus Christ our redeemer; who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. Amen.

Advent #3 – Stir up your power, O Lord, and with great might come among us; and, because we are sorely hindered by our sins, let your bountiful grace and mercy speedily help and deliver us; through Jesus Christ our Lord, to whom, with you and the Holy Spirit, be honor and glory, now and for ever. Amen.

Advent #4 – Purify our conscience, Almighty God, by your daily visitation, that your Son Jesus Christ, at his coming, may find in us a mansion prepared for himself; who lives and reigns with you, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, on God, now and for ever. Amen. So, what are we to do in response to this message concerning the second coming of Jesus Christ? Well, let’s examine each collect for the answers.

Advent #1 – We need “to cast away the works of darkness, and put on the armor of light, now in the time of this mortal life.” Notice the collect says “now in the time of this mortal life.” Not tomorrow, not when it feels right, now, today. Why? So “we may rise to life immortal through him.”

Advent #2 – We need God to “Give us grace to heed their warnings (prophets) and forsake our sins”. Why? So “that we may greet [him] with joy.” Can we joyfully greet Our Lord and Savior while living in sin?

Advent #3 – We need the Lord to let his “bountiful grace and mercy speedily help and deliver us.” Why? “Because we are sorely hindered by our sins.”

Advent #4 – We need Our Lord to “purify our conscience.” Why? So Jesus “may find in us a mansion prepared for himself.” A mansion, not a one room shack. A mansion, because that’s how much we love him.

Advent Greetings,
Bill Sexton, Archdeacon





John chapter 1:1–14 could be viewed as the “un-Christmas” text. There is no talk of wise men traveling from the east, no shepherds in the field keeping their flocks by night, and no angelic host setting the Palestinian sky on fire with heavenly glory. It lacks even a single mention of Mary or her Virgin birth, her husband Joseph, and certainly no mention of the packed-out inn and the Christ-child wrapped in swaddling clothes and lying in a manger. Yes, John chapter 1 lacks all the nostalgia we typically associate with the Christmas Story, but it is nevertheless no less about the birth of Jesus. But verse 14 holds a special place in the story of Jesus’ birth.

John 1:14   And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.
How little it says about Jesus’ infant moments when first robed in flesh is almost mystifying. It says nothing at all. But it does tell us so much about the Baby born in Bethlehem. We can assume John’s silence on the birth narrative is for good reason. Sometimes what we don’t say is as important as what we do; truly less is more!

The God-man from God
Jesus, the man whose life John will tell us about in the remaining twenty chapters of his Gospel is the God-man—“hail incarnate deity!” God stepped into our time and our space enrobed in human flesh.
He became one of us, to save all of us.

Here is John’s point—God has come! God has come like us, and God has come for us! For a wayward race, God came and did something totally unexpected—He revealed his glory in sinless flesh to redeem us who are suffering from sin in the flesh.

Show Us The Father
As Jesus is wrapping up his earthly ministry and preparing for his crucifixion Philip says to Jesus, “Lord, show us the Father, and it is enough for us.”  To this Jesus replies: “Have I been with you so long, and you still do not know me, Philip? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?” (John 14:8–9)

It has been said that it is important to always identify the question behind the question. What is the question behind Philip’s question? “Lord, show us the Father’s Glory?” It is a good question, but Philip, like ourselves, he misses the point. The Father has already revealed his glory… “and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.”  What an encouraging thing.

Full of Grace and Truth
This year, let this be our prayer—that we might see the Father’s glory. But let us be reminded that the glory of the Father is only seen with the eyes of faith. The glory of our loving heavenly Father is Jesus, full of grace and truth.

Bishop Todd


+ The Gospel is not hard to understand, but living the way Jesus called us to live presents an entirely different challenge.

Why the Gospel is Simple – Not Easy


The simplicity of the Gospel message can be summed up in the two great commandments.  The first comes from Deuteronomy 6:5 “and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might” Jesus then says (Matt. 22:37–39) that the second is like unto it, “you shall love your neighbor as yourself…” (Lev. 19:18).

As simple as these words are, they at the same time present what is gruelingly so difficult about Christianity. We might call this the “death to self” of “taking up one’s cross.” The Gospel is simple, but it is also very difficult.


Well as C.S. Lewis pointed out in multiple places, the problem with the world is not technology and it is not religion either. To this we can even add, it is not the environment or a host of social ills. These things are bad but are yet only symptomatic. They are not the root cause. As Lewis said, the problem is us!  Christianity holds to the idea of original sin—an indwelling and pervasive sentence to do wrong. 

To the self-respecting modern mind, this sounds somewhere between negative and outdated. But pull the reigns for a moment and give it a second look. 

The Path of Self-Centeredness

What if I reexplain that in this way: Mankind has an indwelling, pervasive, and unrelenting tendency to put self first. Now it does not sound so far from the mark. The entire world, every nation, and every economy turns on a simple marketing principle: WIIFM.

That’s the acronym for “What’s in it for me.” All marketers, if they know what they are doing, drive sales on this principle. The business that does not put the needs and wants of their client first, will shortly cease to be a business. 

And why do Marketers drive their campaigns with this? They know it is human nature—human nature to put self first, before others. 

Self-service—The Root of Sin

Self-service, self-centeredness, selfishness, or by whatever name you call it, lies behind every evil act, every hurtful word, and every worldly injustice. Be it grade school bullying or ethnic cleansing, someone’s desire to seize property at the cost of another’s life, advance a career at another’s expense, or belittle another for a momentary sense of superiority on a playground, is an act of selfishness. 

As they often say, ‘the difference between men and boys is the price of their toys’ (an appropriately self-centered view of males), so the difference between playground bullying and ethnic cleansing is only the unchecked adult capacity to wield far more destructive power. Any way you cut it, it is the cruel and inhumane treatment of a human.

The Radical Ethic of Jesus

The Gospel turns the flaccid “do-gooder” altruism on its head. Paul says in Philippians 2:3–4: “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others.” Many of us conceive of doing nice things here and there for this or that person. When we do these things, they make us feel good, but that is as far as they extend. The problem is that good works do not, in fact, make us good. If we do them for that reason, and so other people think we are good, Jesus considers that sin a too. 

Why? Because it is self-serving. Jesus said of the religious elite of his day, “Thus when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward.” (Matt. 6:2)

People often ask me if you are a good person, will you go to heaven? The problem with the question is its assumption—that someone can truly be “good.” The position of Christianity is that there has only been one person who was truly “good”—Jesus Christ. This is because he is the only person who ever lived who was authentically and completely good. By that I mean, his goodness” was in fact “airtight”; There was no single moment in his entire early life that he ever did something out of selfish ambitions, no moment he served himself above another or above his Heavenly Father. Only that makes one good and worthy of the Kingdom of God.

The Way of The Truly Good Man

Let’s look back at Philippians 2. It paints a picture of the truly good man—Jesus. He is the example to follow. 

Philippians 2:5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,2 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant,3 being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. 9 Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, 10 so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

Notice the key words here? “Emptied himself,” taking on the form of a “servant,” he “humbled himself,” and becoming “obedient.” These are the words any self-respecting person despises. We do not want to be anyone’s servant, obey anyone, or humble ourselves. But this is precisely the cost of the kingdom. It is called ‘death to self.’

The Most Wounded Do the Most Wounding

So what is wrong with the world? As Lewis said, it is us—humankind. The self-centered impulse in all of us is what leads even the kindest person, in the right circumstances to do what even surprises her. Granted some people do far more evil in the world than others. But we should consider that it typically those who have experienced the brunt of evil perpetuate the most evil. The vast majority of sex offenders were victims first.

Stopping the Cycle

The Gospel is about stopping the cycle. It is not a magic pill or wonder drug that suddenly rids the human heart of all self-centeredness. The Gospel invites us into the Kingdom of God. In so doing it calls us to be a part of a new community who are practicing peace and justice as a way of life. As Christians living in the world, we are not yet free of sin; we are broken sinners learning to be free, and that takes time. But with growing humility, we can be free. 



What is Your Story? How Your Story Interprets Your Reality

The story you live by will, to a large degree, determines your future. It is critical for interpreting our world, our lives, and our future. We do not often think about it this way, but we subtly live this way in principle.

How the Past Can Determine Our Future

It is hard to not be affected by our past. Sometimes its scars run deep. The way people often make us feel grows into a toxic identity—a negative approach to how we our selves. If we have been hurt, failed, been abused, violated, alienated, this can lay an awfully heavy burden on our sense of self-worth. Through our past, we often come to define ourselves by how people have made us feel.

We have a tendency to define ourselves by how our inner person views the world because of what we have experienced. This does not mean you cannot escape your past. You can. What it does mean though is we must be careful to not let our feelings, especially those impressed on us by others define us. The past can determine our future, but only if we let it.

An Objective Gospel

The Gospel story is also history. It took place in time and space. It is something that is objective, not subjective. The Gospel is outside of us. Regardless of how we are feeling at any given moment, the gospel comes to us sure and steadfast. The story of Jesus doesn’t leak or move.

What this means is that this story provides a stable interpretive paradigm through which to reinterpret, reshape, and renew our lives.

The Structure of Interpretive Paradigms

Thomas Khun, in his provocative book The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, made a rather controversial proposition. He subjected the so-called “objectivity” of science to the rigors of philosophical consideration.

In documenting the history of science, Kuhn pointed out how science goes through phases of interpretive paradigms. These “paradigms” are basically “narratives” or so-called “metanarratives”—stories used to filter and interpret the data.

The problem with these paradigms is that at some point if they are not corrected, they begin failing to be useful, namely because they can no longer make good sense of all the data. This is what leads to the “scientific revolution.” Once so much data amasses that no longer fits the paradigm, it forces a reevaluation or paradigm shift. The old narrative is discarded and a new one is born.

The key point here is that Kuhn demonstrates the impossibility of the human race to interpret reality apart from a story that explains what we experience. And even the scientific community, that often prides itself on its objectivity finds itself quite unable to operate apart from a “story paradigm.”

The Gospel Interprets Reality

The Gospel is the interpretive paradigm God has given us to interpret our reality. Who we are, where we are in the universe, our purpose, and destiny are all meant to be explained in the story of the crucified man resurrected and enthroned. This story is about liberation, freedom, healing, and triumph over the darkness.

As we are steeped in God’s story, a new identity arises from the cinders of our fragile and broken lives. We might call this the resurrection of our identity both through Christ and in Christ.

At the heart of the Gospel is the infinite value of mankind. From the beginning of the story at creation, till the end, man is created in the image of God—created with dignity, purpose, and a royal destiny. From the moment mankind first opened is eyes, he was on a journey, a journey for God, to God, and with God.

In the New Testament, that place has a name—glory. The lectionary reading the 22nd week of Pentecost includes 2 Thessalonians:

2Th. 2:13–14   But we ought always to give thanks to God for you, brothers beloved by the Lord, because God chose you as the firstfruits to be saved, through sanctification by the Spirit and belief in the truth. To this, he called you through our gospel, so that you may obtain the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Yes—“that you may obtain the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ. God has determined that the end for mankind is glory, a glory only found in a renewed relationship to God as savior.

Putting the Power Source at the Center

The Gospel puts the center back into the puzzle of our wayward lives. Over the last three decades, with the advances in technology and space telescopes, our knowledge of the universe has grown exponentially. One major discovery is the verified proof of black holes. Something quite ironic since they are invisible!  That begs the question, how do you prove something invisible is actually there. Well, that is not uncommon. Air and wind are also invisible, but we can document the effects of the wind without question.

As astronomers studied various galaxies, almost forty of them, they kept their eyes on the odd and unexplainable orbits of stars near the galactic centers. Stars and space objects in orbit normally orbit things with gravity. But there were all these objects orbiting nothing—or so it seemed. That was until it was proposed that the theory of a black hole was in fact not theory at all. These astronomers reevaluated these orbits by theorizing what they would call a “supermassive” black hole at the center of almost all the galaxies. When they did this, all these odd orbits were explained.

Though invisible, they found there to be a supermassive black hole at the center of almost all of the galaxies in question. At the center of our Milky Way Galaxy lies the Supermassive Sagittarius A-Star (Sgr A*). The center story of all these unexplainable orbits was reentered. That is precisely what the Gospel does with our lives. Though often seeming quite invisible, the Gospel is there, and when we begin to embrace it, it makes sense of our world in a way no other story can.

The Story Continues

Through the death, burial, crucifixion, and resurrection of Christ “took place” in Judea some two thousand years ago, the story yet continues. Jesus was not just resurrected. He ascended to the right hand of the Father (Rom. 8:34; Col. 3:1; Heb. 1:3, 13; 8:1; 10:12; 12:2; 1Pet. 3:22) It is there your story continues. Jesus had an earthly ministry to obtain a cosmic ministry to us.

The Story not only continues in heaven, it continues in his people. If you have entrusted your story to Him, it continues in you right now. Whatever your pain, suffering, brokenness, or alienation, through the power of God’s Spirit, Jesus’ resurrection triumph is now yours and that story reshaping us for grace and goodness.



The season of Advent is just around the corner! It begins on December 1st and ends on December 24th.  Advent is a time where we prepare our hearts for the coming of Jesus Christ; a celebration of his birth, and a longing for his return.

Church of The Apostles will be supporting
Be The Change/Project Hand Up and
the Apparent Project during the Advent Season.

There is exciting news at Be The Change.  They have finally found a new home.  They have been searching for over a year as they had greatly outgrown their space at their existing location in Artic.  They expect to be moving soon into their new location at the bottom of Factory Street.  It is a historic building, located on the river, with an inscription on the front: Artic Mill, 1910; previously known to us younger folks as an antique and estate store.  They hope to increase their capacity in quantity of food items and the number of people they serve.  They especially appreciate that they are located on the bus route, which will make it easier for those with transportation challenges.

After speaking with Coreen, director and founder of BTC/PHU, as to how could we be a blessing to them this Christmas, she offered that there is a great need for toiletries and new socks for people of all ages – child to adult.  I assured her that we would be most humbled to play a small part in brightening someone’s Christmas.

Our other Christmas offering that we usually support at this time of year is the Apparent Project.  The mission of the Apparent Project is to make the needs of Haiti known, to offer opportunities for Haitians to be able to provide for themselves and their families, empowering them to rise out of poverty and to avoid relinquishing their children to orphanages. Their desire is: “To inspire adoration of our loving Father, GOD, with the hope that one day He will be Apparent to all.” They provide childcare, early education and emergency assistance for their employees and families.  They also provide English and computer classes to promote employee’s advancement opportunities.

One way we have assisted the Haitians in the past was to provide sustainable living opportunities through the sale of necklaces and Christmas ornaments that they make.  This year, we’ve decided that we’d like to continue to support their independence, but we will do it through financial donations.  We will be putting up paper ornaments at the Cross in the Narthex for anyone who would like to make a donation toward this opportunity.

Deacon Deb Adams

“Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.” (Galatians 6:9-10)


Your Story & Your Scars?  The Scars of God and His Healing Story

No matter how dull or uninteresting we might think ourselves to be, we all have a story. That story also says a lot about us and is rich with triumph and tragedy.

For better or for worse, we live through it. With it secretly playing in the background of our consciousness, it unfolds in the caverns of our psyche like a movie soundtrack.

Like all stories, content is critical. The story told determines plot and themes affecting our decisions and how our personal story unfolds. Not unlike an author, who casts characters, we continuously cast and recast ourselves in the image of the narrative that we believe about ourselves. As the author makes decisions for the characters that will affect the ultimate outcome in the story, so do we based upon what we already believe about ourselves.

It is by this story through which we typically interpret our sense of reality. How you see yourself, the shadow you cast, is often who you grow into, for better or worse.

Your Story and Your Scars

I have said before that where there is a story, there are scars. Scars can run deep and have the power to define or redefine us. Folks that have suffered immense tragedy, abuse, violence, and so on often become defined by that story. Through no fault of their own, that story of abuse or alienation becomes our own. This can have a tyrannical power steering us into a downward spiral to a diminishing sense of self.

Our self-worth, how we view ourselves, suffers when it is defined by anything less than God and his Gospel. This is in itself, idolatry. A life story other than the Gospel of Christ is a False Gospel.

To have any other narrative through which we get our self worth other than the unshakable love and character of God is a fragile place to be. Our self-worth suffers all the more when what defines is not only NOT God, but also something negatively committed against us. That story can be nothing less than a demonic false god.

Without the Gospel as the center, our scars then become an anti-story giving birth to more chaos. Instead of weaving the tatters of life into a tapestry of grace, they can further diffuse, dissipate, and make our life story seem more senseless and purposeless.

The Gospel — A Better Story

In the Cosmos, gravity gives unity, consistency, and predictability to all things celestial. It is gravity shared in our solar system that establishes times, seasons, days, months, and years. Outside our solar system is a host of random floating space debris. Few of us know it, but Astronomers and Astrophysicists know that the immense gravity of Jupiter continually sweeps our solar system of earth ending events by sucking massive celestial menaces into the tractor beam of its gravitational pull.

The Gospel story is not unlike Jupiter. It slurps-up the seemingly random, and pointless scars of our present life into the orbit God’s cosmic love story. Our scars are no longer random junk that makes us likewise feel like junk. We have purpose; we are here for a purpose. Like gravity, the Gospel brings order and symmetry out of the chaos.

When we see ourselves as disconnected tissue deposits slogging through life’s suffering only to disappear from history’s horizon just to make room for others, it is hard to make sense of pain. It is harder to see that we are here for a purpose—that we have dignity, and that we are made in the image of God.

Those horrible scars do not have to define you. Through the Gospel, the scarred God comes and offers us his hand to the renewal of us, and of all things.

The God of Scars and the Scars of God

In the upper room, after the resurrection, Jesus came to meet his disciples. They were scarred men, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The Bible ironically never paints a “saintly” picture of the saints. They were fallen men, and yet Jesus comes to stand among them and stand with them.

Even after the resurrection, the disciples did not encounter a sterile and saccharin Jesus, all washed-up with no backstory. He was a savior with scars. Thomas protested: “Unless I see in his hands the mark of the nails, and place my finger into the mark of the nails, and place my hand into his side, I will never believe.”

Jesus neither rejects nor shames him. Jesus stands before Thomas saying:

“Put your finger here, and see my hands, and put out your hand, and place it in my side. Do not disbelieve, but believe.”

For Thomas, the scars became sacramental; touching the scars in Jesus’ hands and side is the path of faith. Jesus condescends with his own flesh and scars to heal the rot of disbelief in Thomas’ affected soul. By his scars, Thomas’ doubts are healed.

Thomas responds with new faith. Rising from the dead of disbelief, Thomas cries: “My Lord and my God!” In his confession, Thomas is in Christ, he is the body of Christ, and he shares in the glory of Christ. Jesus’ scars are now Thomas’. Through the resurrection of the dead, God’s scars became your scars and they are the very food of life for us.

Proud of the Scars

One thing that may be unique to boys over girls is their absurd tendency to brag of their scars. Only a group of young men can bring “one-upmanship” to new heights of absurdity as they compare scars. “Oh you think that’s bad, you should hear how I got this one…”

With the right story, we often eventually become proud of our scars. The Gospel renews the center. Like the Sun, it reorders the solar system of our personal narrative and relocates us in the universal story of God. Now our wounds have new meaning in the light of Jesus’. So the next time we are comparing scars, we can now say, “Oh you think that’s good, wait till you hear what Jesus did for me!”